Free dating sites versus paid dating sites
By Elena Solomon,
I have used and worked for several
dating sites, both free and paid.
I know Internet personals from A to Z.
And I came to realize that free dating sites were awfully expensive.
Want to know why?
First, free dating sites attract all types of rubbish: Nigerian scammers,
Russian ďmail order bridesĒ, and all types of unstable and wicked people
that were banned from quality services. Those people have too much time on
their hands (or it is their full-time Internet rip-off occupation) and
this is why they donít mind to hang there.
On the other hand, since the website is free, they do not have much staff
on hand to look after it, and check on possible scams. So scammers are
free to go wild there.
Second, free dating sites usually make their revenue from the ads they
show to their members. In other words, they arenít really interested in
you actually FINDING someone on their site: they would rather have you
frustrated and clicking on the ads you see on their site.
Another venue is selling your email address to mass-mailing companies, or
running mass-mailings themselves. It means you risk being bombarded with
hundreds of commercial emails, day after day.
Third, I find it appalling that a person cannot find some twenty bucks to
pay for a subscription. As a woman, I want to KNOW that the guy I am
talking to is at least capable of paying his own rent.
If I were a guy, I would also prefer a woman who is capable of looking
after herself and doesnít think a man is there to provide for her.
Forth, the software on free sites is often inconvenient and the customer
support sucks. I prefer things that work as they are supposed to.
Fifth, for a busy person like you and me, filtering through heaps of bogus
profiles can be maddening. My time is valuable. Iíd rather spend it
meeting someone for coffee than talking to people that arenít even real.
On a paid dating site people have invested something in the process, so
they are more serious and donít play games.
Sixth, for all the reasons outlined above, quality people tend to avoid
free dating services. Their time is too valuable. If you want to meet a
quality person, you are unlikely to meet them on free sites.
All in all, I have realized that using a free dating site is awfully
expensive. I simply cannot afford it. It costs me more in time and effort,
which I could use more productively - like running a dating coaching
session, or writing an article.
Iíd rather pay for subscription and have ten times less frustrations and
ten times more results.
What about you?
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Elena Solomon has
been involved in online dating since the early days of WWW. She is the
exclusive dating consultant of Soulmades.com.au -
Internet personals for singles seeking love, romance, relationships and
Elena is the author of "12 Simple Rules for Success in Love, Life and